Today, my partner and I went looking at engagement rings. I say looking and not shopping, since he’s not actually popped the question, but since I have such unusual, small hands we felt it would be best to go and get an idea of what can be done in terms of sizing and design (and what I like the look of).
I’m a frugal girl at heart. Walking into a smart jewellery establishment and legitimately looking an expensive items felt strange – like I didn’t belong there. I’ve always insisted he doesn’t need to get me a flashy ring, just something small and simple an I upheld that, but it’s funny how as soon as I started trying things on…I really enjoyed it all! I surprised myself often, and learned that as much as I shun consumerism and ridiculous material possessions, talking about an engagement ring felt different. Special.
Sometimes I surprised myself in other ways. The first ring I picked up looked beautiful; a simple trilogy setting, three dainty diamonds and by itself it looked lovely. But as soon as I put it on I knew it was wrong, it just didn’t seem to suit me.
A solitaire ring, a delicate white gold shank with a single round cut diamond on the top also looked wrong, although in the case I found it gorgeous but somehow…it wasn’t enough. That was surprise number #3. I couldn’t believe I wasn’t satisfied with something minimalist.
There were many beautiful rings and I soon discovered which style I really loved; delicate, vintage trilogy setting, maybe with a central coloured stone in a fine shank. There were two I could narrow it down to – one, a beautiful white gold trilogy ring with baguette shoulder diamonds (I kid you not, that’s the real technical term!) and an oval cut ruby in the centre. The second, a round cut trilogy ring set in platinum. The setting was narrower and higher than the previous trilogy I had been disappointed with. I’m not sure I can choose between the two!
As for sizing, the kinds of rings I was drawn to could be sized up or down by five sizes – good news for me! And if needed, the shank could be fitted with two beads at 4 and 8 o’clock positions respectively to prevent the ring from spinning too much while on the finger. More good news for me! The only other option was to have a hinged ring shank that basically clips on around the finger but that’s a costly and fiddly option. Probably not a goer, that one.
All in all, I was pleasantly surprised by how easy it is to get a proper ring that fits and by my own choices in styles of ring. A very productive shopping trip!
It just goes to show that even when you think you know what you want, you can be proven wrong.